‘Love Notes by Chi’ is BrownStyle Magazine‘s new column—curated by professional matchmaker Chi Love— that brings you insightful tips, and trendy discussions and answers your biggest questions about love, dating, and relationships.
Happy New Year! New You? Maybe, maybe not. The choice is yours, my love. The truth is, nothing changes if you do nothing to change. You have to want something better for yourself enough to do something different.
Okay, maybe last year didn’t go as well as you would have liked. That’s okay. The new year offers a chance for new opportunities, whether it’s in your professional life or your romantic life. I believe in manifesting. I also believe that you can achieve all that you desire if you know what you want, especially when it comes to dating and matters of the heart.
As a professional matchmaker, I am familiar with the New Year’s resolutions of those who want to try something different in their love lives. I have clients tell me each year that this year they’re going to be more open-minded and step outside their “type.” I also get those who vow they won’t be so pessimistic when it comes to dating in general. The most common one I hear? This time around they won’t let their past experiences stop them from being open to finding love again. Some ace their goals. Others are simply not ready to try something new.
I bring this up not to judge but to speak the truth. The truth is that you have more power in the outcome of your goals than you realize. It’s all about your mindset and how you approach finding love.
Questions To Ask Yourself In 2024
It’s a new year. How are you changing your mindset? What do you want to do better? What are you manifesting for yourself this year? How will you make it happen? What are you doing differently to ensure that you are prepared for what this year has in store? These are the questions you need to ask yourself if you want to open your mind to the possibilities of finding love in the new year.
In my opinion, it can’t hurt to explore these questions because even if it doesn’t result in a fairytale romance, you are still walking away with a stronger relationship with yourself.
Below, see the affirmations I recommend for singles who want to mingle in the new year:
- I am capable of great things.
- There is much in store for 2024.
- I will accomplish my goals this year.
- I will show myself grace.
- I deserve happiness.
- This year is my year.
Some of these manifestations will resonate more than others. Make them your own. Change the words so they fit closer to what you want for yourself if necessary. More importantly, trust that this year will be better than the last!
