Real Women Over 40 Share Secrets To Protecting Your Peace At Any Age!

From setting boundaries to embracing failure, read the sound wisdom shared by our BrownStyle Beauties.

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Ever wonder what advice a fabulous woman over 40 would give to a woman in their 20s and 30s about protecting their peace? Look no further, you’ve come to the right place.

We recently asked our BrownStyle Beauties over 40 to give us their secrets for protecting their peace and we are happy to report that their keep-it-real advice was solid gold! 

Below, read the sound wisdom professional women from various walks of life shared with us. Hopefully, it inspires you to stay stress-free and full of joy.

Expect Nothing; Appreciate Everything

“As a woman who is now 50 and fab, my advice to young women is to learn to fill your own cup. Fall in love with yourself and discover what you like and don’t like about yourself. In order to have peace, you must make your life peaceful by loving yourself and honoring your body. Learn to date yourself. Expect nothing and appreciate everything. A woman who can control her emotions can control her destiny. Don’t allow others to waste your time. And lastly, go out on as many dates as your calendar will allow.”

Anissa Marie Bass, Actress, Author, Stomach Cancer Advocate

Don’t Abandon Yourself

“Don’t be a people pleaser. Stay true to who you are. Never let distractions get in the way of your goals.”

Shayla Davis, Freelance Journalist

Learn To Love Your Authentic Self

“Learn how to set boundaries. It’s okay to love from a distance and disconnect from anyone or anything that disrupts your core— family or friends. Additionally, take time to learn and love your authentic self.”

Calandra Gantt, Gospel Artist, Author, Speaker

Keep Your Circle Tight

“Keep your circle tight and stop allowing people to tell you that you have no value. As soon as you hear that, you need to leave— whether it’s a job or relationship.”

Dr. Letitia Wright, TV Host & Crowdfunding Consultant

Embrace Failure

“The advice I give young women is the same advice I give my young nieces who range in age from 10-32. Embrace failure. It does not define you and is a part of the process. It is a hard lesson but learning to see mistakes as opportunities for growth is freeing and transformative. Seeing failures as a negative can chip away at your self-esteem and self-worth. I had to work a lot to rewire my brain to view setbacks positively, but it has made all the difference.”

Julie DeLucca-Collins, CEO of Go Confidently Services

Align With Social Elegance

“Learn everything about social elegance. Education and charm can open lots of doors, but social elegance will propel your career, vocation, and social status.”

Petrona Joseph, Publicist, Mental Health Advocate, and Blogger 

Understand Your Bliss

“Reflecting on my past and life lessons, I would tell women in their 20s and 30s to understand their boundaries and their sources of bliss. We can be more free in expressing ourselves when we know what we will and will not accept in our lives from ourselves or others. Had I known this coming into my 20s, perhaps I could’ve avoided a painful relationship and first marriage. Our sources of bliss are the things that bring us peace, joy, and love. Sources of bliss can refuel us and help us keep our peace when our boundaries are pressed or when our lives simply fall out of balance and alignment. It may be music, art, writing, family, nature, or something else. It doesn’t matter as long as it helps and doesn’t harm. Having both boundaries and go-to sources of bliss will help protect our peace so we can build lives we love.”

Bernette Sherman, Author, Book Consultant, and CEO of That Shero Life and Mount Hope Media

Don’t Get Caught Up In Hustle And Bustle

“Prioritize self-care and set boundaries early on. It is important to prioritize your mental, emotional, and physical well-being above all else. This means taking time for yourself, practicing self-love, and learning to say no to things that do not serve you. It is also important to surround yourself with positive and supportive people who uplift and encourage you. Toxic relationships and negative influences can drain your energy and impact your peace of mind. Surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you and support your growth. Lastly, remember to prioritize your passions and goals. It is easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of everyday life, but it is essential to take time to pursue your dreams and aspirations. Set boundaries with work, relationships, and commitments to ensure that you have time to focus on what truly makes you happy.”

Deria Stukes, Celebrity MUA & Author

Set Clear Boundaries

“Know and love yourself, set clear boundaries, understand the difference between collaboration and competition, and do not seek acceptance from others. Establish good relationships with people and embrace who you are fully.”

Michelle P. Jones, The Writer’s Coach & Author

Be Mindful Of The Information You Ingest

“I believe that protecting your peace is important. That’s why I suggest keeping your circle small and being mindful of the information that you ingest.”

Celisha J, Actress & Author

Editor’s Note: This story has been edited and condensed for clarity.

Brooke Young is a multi-passionate publicist, public speaking mentor, and communication consultant who works with a wide range of clients across the globe. Using her skills, she helps her clients create, develop, and promote powerful messages through heart-centered storytelling.

With over a decade in professional performing, Young has previously worked on-air with FOX Sports, participated in the Miss America Organization, and authored a children's book titled Murray's Miraculous Mission.'

Passionate about sharing stories that truly matter, Young is a freelance writer and journalist, a voice-over actress, and a wellness enthusiast. You can connect with her on Instagram at @brookeeliseyoung.